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mirrored in the feeling for what happens

gary e. davis
March 10 , 2019
 
 

A keynote to being is that experience is primarily relational (being), secondarily representational (being). We’re unwittingly born into pure relationality that gains capability for differentiating itself as there being something (no longer just being [everything that’s gradually distinct]. As relationality gains self/other different-iation, differences between presence that is the other’s and projection (imagin-ation) individuates capacity for perceiving/feeling otherness as having its own integrity, i.e., oneSelf being empathic with another (rather than egoistically absorbing another’s presence into one’s own feeling).

Such relationality isn’t primarily cognitive, though a person can represent that, therefore making it cognitive. Relationality itself—including what’s called “emo-tional intelligence”—is an efficacy of feeling, which differentiated others may mirror. I call this cognative in order to express kinship with ‘cognitive’ and echo the lexical association of lineal kinship, but giving this my own meaning. I men-tioned this two years ago (with some [inserts] now), but it was already an old notion for me (tracing back to Being and Time’s premise that “therebeing is with-being” (“Dasein ist Mitsein”), for me in the mid-1970s:

I call interpersonal relations cognative because relationship prevails over other/selfidentity difference[; ideally: interSelfal relations—e.g., intimacy—prevail over interpersonal ones]; whereas, in cognitive relations, the elements of the relationship (self to other/object) prevail over—assemble, comprise—the relationship [thereby repre-
sentable as conjunctive] of self and other. In cognative relations,
the inter-ness instills [en-stances] the [available] difference between other and self [, i.e., between one’s personal engagement and another’s; or, ideally, Self differentiating with Self].

One can imagine that a topic of imagination in relation to (irt, I like to say) empathy in individuated relationality can be extensive: Research on empathy is extensive. Imaginative efficacy in literary experience calls for empathy (not just cognitivist “suspension of disbelief”). Literary reading integrally calls for fantasy bonds (a delightful notion that deserves enhancement outside of clinical psychodynamics).

 



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