Long ago, I coined the rubric “s/p differentiation” to indicate a difference between highly individuated selfidentity and an array of interpersonal relations in everyday life.
In my own life (and thinking), I’ve long taken for granted a cogency of so-called
s/p-differentiability—differentiating:
(a) myself as person in mutually-made interpersonal relationship; my identity or personableness relative to other persons, within interpersonal relationships—relative to interpersonal interaction);
(b) personness of being a person, oneself, relative to a life beyond all interpersonal relationships; myself to myself in decades of a singular life.
(c) understanding myself as selfidentity among so many differences: understanding myself as basically apart from, while also as being with, interpersonal relations; selfidentity of/as so many interpersnal relations cohering singularly as this “personal” (interpersonally selfidentical, yet selfidentically person-al) life.
As a person, I’m one self in the times of my life, which includes the cohering of many [inter]personal relations. These relations may be like separate identities: parent, longstanding friend, intimate partner, professional person, like a different person in each domain, yet cohering across the continuum.
The rubric ‘s/p difference’ and ‘s/p differentiality’ represent such a three-fold of being one selfidentity (s) inclusive of so much [inter]personal identity (or domainal personal identifies) in a singular s/p-differentiated life.
This importantly pertains to not understanding oneself as subjectivity, thus not basically understanding relations with others as intersubjectivity. For a self-directive life there are subjective aspects, of course: openness in learning, listening, reading (yet self-initiative engagement); coping with imposed happenstance (yet thanks to self-initiated capabilities for coping); and letting free association have its way in creativity (yet sustaining that for the sake of desired articulation).
The latter (free associative release) involves immersion in deeper self or Self which expresses S/s difference. Mature autnomy employs subjective states or copes with subjective states. But understanding oneself, as such, subjectively is self-defeating.
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